8 comments on “How to NOT train up a child

  1. That really scared me; I cannot believe that anyone advocates punishing an infant for biting while nursing. Does the author really believe an infant has that sort of nueral development to connect the dot?It would seem to me, perhaps a person far too liberal for the author, that the authorities would have every right to step in and remove a child from that sort of treatment. You’re right, Birgit, that is just not Christian behavior, it’s abuse.

  2. <rant>Do these people advocate stoning? Oh wait, they’ll excuse that as Old Testament. OK, how about slavery then, since there is a basis for that in the New Testament?</rant>

  3. oh, oh, stop! I laughed out loud when I read “a larger tree branch!” They have to be kidding, right? Wait, wouldn’t num-chucks be even more effective?!

  4. Well, I most certainly don’t agree with all that the Pearl’s teach, but when my babies bit me, I flicked their cheek with my fingers and they stopped. Also I swatted my kids if they wouldn’t lay still for a diaper change if they were wildly flailing about and I couldn’t change them.Also, these books really helped me to gain the control I needed because my kids were not respecting me and walking all over me. They were not happy and I was not happy. When we ‘got stricter’ and spanked them with the ‘rod’ the attitudes changed and we had a MUCH happier family life.I can see how the Pearl’s stuff can be taken the wrong way, and implemented in the wrong way, but it helped us and I’m thankful for that.Just my $.02

  5. There is much in the book that is good (when they aren’t talking about spanking methodology) – but to me the idea of hitting a four months old with a willow switch, or according to their website, a quarter inch plumbing supply line (!), hitting with belts, or pulling hair as “training tools” is abhorrent.

  6. If material can be “misunderstood” in a way that leads to child abuse, then it is incumbent upon the authors to clarify what they are teaching.There *are* better ways of helping infants and toddlers learn boundaries without hairpulling or hitting.

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